Raise your hand if you think January went by so fast! *Raises hand* We were just ringing in the new year and here comes February where it’s time to celebrate Valentine’s day! When I was a little bit younger, on the height of my teenage years, I used to dread this holiday as a single girl. Well, didn’t we all? There was even this tradition back in my high school where flower vendors would be waiting outside with a handful of roses and boys would line up to buy them one by one to give to their crush in the middle of class or during break time. Sure, I did get my share but single girls just hate this holiday in general. Then as I got older and learned about unconditional and a more mature sense of love, I too found out that there’s nothing to be so bitter about February 14. That love doesn’t just mean romantic love but one that can be shared with family, friends and most importantly yourself :)
If you’re celebrating the day of love alone this year, don’t fret! There are so much things to be thankful for and here are 5 of my favorites :)
1. Family. This is something I will never get tired of stressing. Growing up with a tight knitted family taught me even as a kid that no matter what happens, they will love you at the end of the day. Our parents and if you do have siblings will always be there to support, guide and care for you. The love they give you will always be unconditional and it’s something to treasure :)
2. Your bestfriend. I’m lucky that my best friend and sister is just one person so she can literally be there for me 24/7! It was once said in Sex and The City, there are family we were born with and there are family we choose and while there will always be a little bit of judgement here and there, bestfriends will always be your automatic partners in crime :) Plus they make life so much more colorful with all the great or even naughty adventures you have or plan on having :)
3. Being alone rather than spending it with the wrong one. A lot of people learn this the hard way but being single gives me a lot of time to learn from my friends in relationships. Many people stay in relationships for the fear of being alone and that for me is the saddest situation one person can put themselves in. For those who are single, spend this time loving yourself rather than loving someone you know is wrong for you. Don’t settle.
4. The freedom to do things at your own time and pace. Just think about this, while you don’t have anyone to go on dates with or text you good morning or even bring you flowers, you too don’t have anyone to fight over where to eat, what to do, what you can’t do, what work or school opportunities to take or even for those who are graduating from high school this year, where to go to college. Don’t get me wrong, I sometimes miss having a special someone but Alice from the movie How To Be Single couldn’t have said it better;
“The thing about being single is, you should cherish it. Because, in a week, or a lifetime, of being alone, you may only get one moment. One moment, when you’re not tied up in a relationship with anyone. A parent, a pet, a sibling, a friend. One moment, when you stand on your own. Really, truly single. And then… It’s gone.”
On Vern: Vest and Boots from Korea, Sweater from Forever 21, Skirt from Zara, Bag from Furla
On Verniece: Coat from LIGHT IN THE BOX, Sweater from Forever 21, Skirt from H&M, Bag from Saint Laurent, Shoes from Korea
