Writer’s block can be a big pain in the a** but I’m very thankful to have YOU guys to suggest topics to me now that I need it the most! :) It’s very hard to think of new things to talk about especially when I feel like I’ve been talking about myself to you for the past 7 years. You know the feeling when you’ve been dating someone for years and you feel like you’ve said too much and you need that spark to keep the relationship alive? Well, to be honest, I’m in that state right now but I’m so happy that just like any relationship, it takes two to tango and you’re still dancing with me! :) A reader suggested a topic and it immediately hit home, literally! :) Hi @mykiwiseed on Instagram, thank you for this! I don’t know why I’ve never written about this but things do happen for a reason and I think this is the perfect time to talk about it :)
I’m at an age when my parents are more lenient with a lot of things and I’m passed my rebellious stage wherein I just want to do everything they don’t want me to do. If you can relate, don’t worry, you’re not alone! I think everyone goes through it. If you have strict parents like ours, don’t worry, our parents were too :) You’re probably in that state where you’re starting to hate them (if you already don’t) and here’s a blogpost to make you understand why it’s not a bad thing. I know this will be helpful because back then, I would listen to ANYONE but my parents. You get me right? :) So here’s hoping that you reading it from a blog will make you see the bright side of what you’re going through right now :)
I grew up with very strict parents. My mom’s a housewife and a mother (a very good one at that!) so she had a lot of time to look after me and my siblings. My parents are very far from traditional though if you’re wondering since they’re still very cool. They’re young so they understand us on a level that older parents won’t really get to and I think that’s what made them stricter. They knew how cruel the world can be and how much temptation there was out there that they wanted us to be protected from them. My parents had me at a very young age and I guess they didn’t want history to repeat itself so they made sure to hold on as tight and as long as they can. We had curfews – it started from 5 pm on the weekends in grade school for those movie or malling with friends and they had to drive us to and from. They also had to know who we’re exactly with, the numbers of their moms and where they live. On the weekdays, we were not allowed to stay after school. As for when we entered high school, they moved it to 8 pm on the weekends with friends but still the same rules and we had to bring a maid with us around the mall. We still can’t stay to hang around after school on weekdays. We started to be allowed to go out to parties and we could stay till 11pm-12 midnight but we needed to bring a driver with us inside parties we would go to. I remember even attending open parties but my parents would wait for me at a restaurant nearby. We couldn’t sleep over at a friend’s house and we can’t go out more than once a week. Our parents even check and track our phone! lol Okay, now I think you get the picture of how strict they were! haha :)
Looking back now though, I’m very thankful for every time they would check our phones, make us bring a driver or yaya and even the curfews they would impose on us because if not, Verniece and I will not be where we are now. It’s a known fact that the reason why I started blogging was because my mom took me out of school for a term and I found a way to keep myself busy when I was stuck being grounded in school. If she didn’t and let me be, then A Shoe Tale wouldn’t be born. If our parents didn’t make us go home early, we probably would’ve gotten in trouble going home at a time we please. If our parents were not picky with the people we would date and instil on us to have high standards for ourselves, then I would date any guy that comes knocking. If my mom wasn’t very hands on with Verniece’s ice skating career then she wouldn’t have gone far because that sport needed alot of time, concentration and effort. If they didn’t take me out of my old school and transffered me to Assumption, then I wouldn’t have honed my writing. Alot of things could’ve changed if my parents weren’t strict with us and that’s why I’m thankful :) I wish I understood this when I was younger so that I could’ve spared us alot of fights but God always has a plan and with how things are going right now, I think we’re on the right one.
So don’t you worry. If you feel bad why you’re not allowed to go out of town with friends or your dad’s making you avoid a person, there’s always a bigger purpose for it and they are genuinely the only two people on earth who want only the best for you :) Just wait till you’re older and you’ll start hugging your parents because they did!
On Vern: Top and Bottom from SKY CASTLE CO, Shoes from Valentino
On Verniece: Top from LIGHT IN THE BOX, Skirt from SKY CASTLE CO