Verniece tweeted to you guys yesterday about topics you want us to blog about and one suggestion that really struck me was the naming of the college dilemmas we had to go through. I volunteered to write on the topic because I’ve been in college for about 5 years now. Yup, that long and yes, I took my time! haha! I’m graduating soon so it would be nice to document something like this for remembrance in the future! :) Here they are:
1. Choosing only three between sleep, social life, school, love life, blogging life (extra curricular for others) and family life.
Looking back at the 5 years I had in college, I realized that this was a constant struggle for me. I could only juggle three at a time to actually have the time and energy to really focus on it to excel at it so there are things you have to really drop and sacrifice. In the first term of first year, I chose sleep, social life and school but from about second term to about second year, I chose school, love life and family life then in the next years till the start of this school year, I chose love life, blogging life and family life and it’s only recently that I’ve been trying to juggle ALL of them and it’s no joke plus I’M SURREE I’m procrastinating on the other three even if I’m still doing them. I think it’s also the reason why alot of people lose big groups of friends in college and find their small group they’ll be bringing with them after because everyone’s trying to find themselves by branching out to new horizons and taking every opportunity out there to excel at they want to may it be getting high grades, having fun, getting a boyfriend, etc and it’s your small group of friends that just stick around when you cant be there all the time.
2. What to wear on a daily basis.
Ofcourse this had to be here! hahaha! I was so used to my wearing my red plaid skirt in highschool everyday so it was quite tricky for me to actually get used to the fact that I have to wear a casual one everyday to school. Though it may have been a problem at times, it helped me discover my personal style and the clothes I’m not or I’m comfortable with :)
3. Sticking to your values when peer pressure is everywhere and your curiosity is at its peak.
Everyone has a little bit (or alot more for the lucky ones) freedom in college compared to highschool so we have more time and opportunities to be curious to try new things plus add the fact that you’ll be meeting new people from all walks of life who will make anything and everything appetizing to try. Everyone goes through this and my advice? While it’s fun to experience everything once, trust your gut feeling. It’s what got me through all of those and I’m alive, very decent and healthy now right? Also, avoid danger, may it be to your body or to your future, at all costs. If you know that you can’t say no, just don’t go :)
I’m lucky that I have parents who didn’t pressure me so much about this but I guess the pressure was from within. Who would want to fail classes right? Or be embarrassed by mean professors in front of everyone? While your class schedule is far more chill compared to the 8 hours we used to spend in school before, classes are harder and professors are meaner. It’s true when they said that noone pampers you anymore and your parents’ excuse letters will do you no good. One thing I can tell you though is that it’s not really the lessons in school that will help you in real life but the it will be the work ethics that you will develop in class, connections you will make and the life lessons from professors that will :)
5. Love life.
So here are the guys I dated in college… HAHAHAHA Kidding! Just for laughs guys!
Love related problems was probably what I had the most in college only because college love is more intense and serious as compared to the puppy love I had in highschool. The problems are faaar more real and serious compared to the ones I had before and it was new to me so I constantly had to adjust. I only had one boyfriend my whole college life so it took up alot of my time. Though looking back at the time I was single back in first year and the past three months I have been, boy problems were a big chunk of my life too! So I guess whether you’re single, attached, dating or heartbroken, dilemmas about love is gonna a big part of everyone’s college life so goodluck!
There you gooooooo!! :) Hope you liked the post! :)